Came across this beautiful narration ,sharing the way Prophet Muhammad treated children,by Anas ibn Malik a very young boy ,when he had the honour of serving the Prophet PBUH. It is narrated from him that during his ten years of service, the final Prophet of God never said a word of impatience or rebuked him. Narrated by Anas r.a himself: “خَدَمْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم عَشْرَ سِنِينَ، فَمَا قَالَ لِي أُفٍّ. وَلاَ لِمَ صَنَعْتَ وَلاَ أَلاَّ صَنَعْتَ ” meaning , he served the Prophet for ten years, and he never said to me, ‘Uff’ (a minor harsh word denoting impatience) and never blamed me by saying, “Why did you do so or why didn’t you do so?” (Sahih-Al-Bukhari).
We are living in a time, where traditional values are thrown aside in the name of modernism and liberalism, we are embracing the extremes only, the balanced way is considered outdated, from the idea of marriage to having children and raising them properly is seen as a burden now by the young ones ,and the parents have a way of abandoning their children, most of them either do not want them , or they choose career over family and children, and those who have children, they do not refrain from showing irritation, and prefer to keep them away by shoving these devices in their hands.
Now the children are learning everything good or harmful from these sources.Parenthood is indeed an absolutely grinding responsibility, where no one is perfect, perhaps the only duty in the world where perfection is impossible for humans, but everyone has to keep trying, as that’s the only way, and it’s not easy to raise a child ,teach everything to that soul you brought into this world, from their basic needs to their education, from their moral beliefs to their values ,their parents are responsible for it, although many are shrieking their biggest duty on earth , this African proverb is still proving its wisdom , that’s its not easy to raise a child ,”it takes a village to raise a child” , and according to many Napoleon Bonaparte said “Give me an educated mother, I shall promise you the birth of a civilized generation” , there’s no doubt about that, unfortunately today’s mother’s are unhappy to perform this sacred duty and fathers are worried about financial burden a child will add to.
Love your children, spend time with them , this is a huge investment for yourself and the society, those energies you’re using to teach them will be fruitful for you in the future, in Islam there are heart touching examples from the life of the Prophet PBUH ,he would play with his grandchildren and carry them on his shoulders. Once when he was carrying Hasan (his beloved grandson)on his shoulders, someone remarked, “O Hasan, what a great ride you have.” The Prophet (pbuh) smiled and replied, “And don’t you see what a great rider I have!” (Shamayal an-Nabi) , that’s the simplest and tinest example from his life, when his life is full of them, teaching us to love our children.